Tips and Strategies for Families
Below are some different tips and strategies that families can try at home to help encourage school attendance.
Attitude/Beliefs:
- Keep in mind that attendance issues can quickly escalate. Parents/guardians need to intervene and reach out for support as early as possible before it becomes the norm.
- Keep the expectation in your home of attending school and staying all day. Don’t give up.
- Even if your child is anxious about school, ensure the expectation of regular attendance doesn’t change. Work on the issue, not around it.
- Talk to your child to find out what is behind them not wanting to go to school. Anxiety can show up in a lot of ways and one of them can be not wanting to go to school.
- Ask questions about your child’s worries about school. Although you know your child well, try not to assume you know the answers. Keep an open mind. Validate your child’s concerns.
- If your child is having difficulty with attendance try setting a goal with them such as if they attend for a certain amount of time, they can do a special activity.
Consistent Routines:
- Practice consistent bedtime and morning routines with your child.
- Parents can model the same routine at home, as it helps students stick to the routine of coming to school each day.
- Having a set schedule for sleep and nutrition is key to a good morning and feeling good about coming to school.
- Preparing for school at night so that the morning is less hectic can be helpful. Organizing clothing, packing backpacks and including favourite foods can be reassuring.
- Putting out clothes and making lunch the night before can help get your child out the door in the morning.
- If your child does refuse to attend school, try having no screens/devices during the time when they are at home. Make staying home as boring as possible!
- Shutting down the home Internet can be helpful if this is a draw for your child to stay at home.
Environment at Home: Night Time
- Creating an environment conducive for improved sleep hygiene (e.g. dark room, quiet, sound machine, light in morning, consistent bed and wake times).
- Ensuring at least 30 minutes of screen-free time before bed and removing all electronics from bedrooms before bed can be helpful.
- Limiting screen time before bed is key to winding-down and getting a great night’s sleep!
Involving the School:
- Know that there are supports in your child’s school. Connect with them as soon as an issue starts. Connecting earlier is better than when your child has missed a lot of school.
- If your child wants to leave school, try to have them connect with a caring adult in the school first to see if things can be worked out before your child goes home.
- Reach out to your school Principal and/or Guidance department for help if your child is not coming to school. Let’s talk! There is no judgement!
- A welcoming school approach has proven to be quite effective. Ensure your child is familiar with their school Principal, Vice-Principal and other caring adults in the building.
- Talk to the school team about anything you are hearing that might be difficult for your child at school. School staff are always ready to help problem solve.
- If going into the classroom is hard – remember coming into the school building and meeting with a caring adult in a safe space is an important step in getting back to school.
Next Steps/What to do if it’s not working:
- Be consistent! Don’t give up. And know that there are supports for parents if you need them.
- There are resources available within schools and community supports if there are other barriers to attendance such as having enough food for lunches.
- Here’s a great resource with existing handouts and evidence based information: https://www.attendanceworks.org/